It’s been a looooooong time since you’ve heard from me. I was kinda distracted the last month or so leading up to my trip to Hawaii. There was so much to do to prepare for it. And I think knowing that I was going to be away from the kids for 7 nights, halfway around the world, with a 6 hour time difference was creating a little angst. I’ve been away from both of my kids before but not for this long and not this far away. So I was a little off during the month of April.
So now that I’m back, I wanted to share a little bit about my trip. For those of you that are just catching up, let me explain why I had the opportunity to go to Hawaii in the first place. I work in the financial services industry. And like most commission-based/sales industries there are incentive trips that sales reps can qualify for based on their production. I’m not a sales rep. I work on the operations side of the business. But because our office had such a stellar year, I was invited to go. I’d never been to Hawaii and I had a million reasons why I couldn’t/shouldn’t go but I decided to figure out a way to make it work!
If you’ve never been to Hawaii, YOU MUST GO. I’ve been fortunate enough to go to many different places and see a lot of different things over the years, but I have to say, there is nothing quite like Hawaii. It has mountains and canyons and waterfalls a plenty! There’s a ton of wild chickens and I even got a picture of a beautiful black swan! The sites were absolutely breathtaking.
But for me, this vacation was about a lot more than an opportunity to get away! I wanted to focus on a few things while I had time to think without two toddlers whining or repeatedly saying “I’m hungry” even when they just ate dinner!
Explore: I like to be active. I like to explore and try new things. I wouldn’t say I’m an adrenaline junkie but I wouldn’t say I’m not either. It would have been crazy for me to travel all the way to Hawaii to sit poolside for 6 days straight, right? My brother and I went for a hike at Waipoo Falls and got amazing pictures of the waterfall. I also went on a catamaran snorkel tour of the Napali Coast, which was absolutely incredible. Not only did we get to see the entire Coast from an ocean view, we got an amazing history lesson (and quite a few laughs) from the Captain. We saw spinner dolphins, we snorkeled, and I jumped off the boat… because why not?!
Spend Time Alone: I think it’s easy to say you like to spend time alone when you have a husband or a boyfriend. But when you don’t, you learn that it’s not so simple. I was with someone for 12 years, which was my entire adult life. Even though I was going to be spending time with work friends (many of them had their spouses or significant others with them), I was still alone. And I’ve been alone for the last year. Okay, don’t cry… that sounded really sad. But it’s not and I’ll tell you why. Being alone is actually a really good way to learn about yourself. When you have a partner (or even kids for that matter) sometimes you get so caught up in the wants and needs of others that you forget to ask yourself what you want, or what you need, or whether or not you’re happy. Besides my kids—whose wants and needs are really quite simple- love them, feed them, clean them, play with them, I can focus on myself. What I want, what I need and what makes me happy. I hiked a trail by myself (almost got lost– only me!). I took walks by myself. I shopped by myself. It was kinda cool. And it gave me a chance to work on my very very very (did I mention very) amateur photography skills.
Relax & Recharge: I brought 3 books with me to Hawaii. I only started reading one on the plane en route home. I brought my tablet—I didn’t turn it on. The only time I turned on my TV in my room was the morning that I was leaving to check the bill and checkout. When I’m on vacation I want to do whatever I want to do in that moment. If I want to hang by the pool and have a cocktail, I will. If I want to take a walk, I will. If I want to listen to a Podcast (this is my new obsession, btw), I will. If I want to take a jog, I will. If I want to eat shave ice, I will. Surprisingly, it doesn’t take much for me to relax. I knew that my kids were in good hands. I knew that it would be quiet at the office. I just wanted to relax. And I totally did. That’s why I came back READY TO FREAKIN GO!
One of the things I’ve tried to focus on this year has been living in the moment a little more. Ya’ll know I’m a planner x 1000. Finding the balance between living in the moment and accomplishing big goals can be difficult. If I’m living in the moment too much, I tend to lose focus. If I’m planning every second of every day, I can become too rigid, get bored and become fanatical.
So I’ve taken the approach of planning with wiggle room. Always having a plan, but being nimble enough to enjoy any opportunities that come up! And when I get an opportunity to totally unplug (like I did for 6 days in Hawaii), I take it. I listen to my mind and body and allow myself to do and feel whatever they want. 💖
1. Go to Hawaii 🌺
2. Take time to relax and recharge once in a while
3. Listen to your body
4. Explore when you can
5. Go to Hawaii 🌺