This one is going to be hard for me. The version of me that you’re going to read about below is not the person I want anyone to think of me as. But it was who I was for a long time, whether people knew it or not. And I learned a valuable lesson that I think is worth sharing.
There was a time, not too long ago, that I had trouble being happy for other people. I was one of those people that would roll my eyes when I saw someone post something on Facebook or Instagram about their amazing weight loss or their brand new huge-ass house. Like an actual eye roll, scroll without “liking”, mutter “no one cares” reaction to someone posting something they were happy and proud of. Seriously?!? I was that insecure that I couldn’t be happy for someone else’s achievements? (:shutters:). Umm, yeah, apparently I was! I should’ve been happy for them- and not just pretend happy, like genuinely happy. A few years ago I realized why I was like this.
I truly thought that if Sarah was skinny that meant I had to be fat. If Samantha was successful that meant there was no success left for me. And if Lucy was madly in love, I’d be alone forever. I don’t know where this mentality came from. I have no recollection of ever being taught this. Why did I think that there was a limited amount of happiness or success or love in the world? Like they were products at a store and once the store was sold out, I was SOL!
It wasn’t until I joined a multi-level-marketing company and became an online fitness coach in 2015 that a major shift in my mindset occurred. It was truly one of the BEST DECISIONS I EVER MADE. I still thank my lucky stars that the opportunity fell into my lap when it did. DISCLAIMER: I am no longer coaching so don’t worry I’m not asking you to join my team (even though you, yes YOU, would probably rock at it 😉 )
Here are just a few gems that I took away from my coaching experience:
- I learned how to genuinely be happy for other people. I don’t know how it happened. I’m not sure if it was because I was surrounded with so many people cheering me on or the fact that I started to feel better about myself (controlling my eating rather than feeling controlled BY it). But it was like the positive energy from this new network of people was contagious. And then one day it just clicked. Even though there were plenty of coaches doing better than me, I was rooting for them. I was happy to see them do well. And this spilled over into all the other parts of my life. I noticed that when I was scrolling through FB or IG, I’d “like” or comment on things that I would normally just scroll right past. I was happy to see that other people were happy and successful. It started to make ME happy.
- I was surrounded by like-minded people. As my online network grew, I got introduced to so many amazing people. These people made me “level up” as I like to call it. Meaning, they pushed me to be a better version of myself. They were happy, successful, high energy and positive and I wanted to be like them! And now, I seek out happy, positive, and supportive people. No one wants to be around a Negative Nancy (#oldme)… we all want to hang out with Positive Patty (#newme).
- I was introduced to personal development. I am OBSESSED with becoming better. And no, not better than you. Just a better version of me. One of the ways I do that is by reading books on personal development. I use PD to help me get through times when I’m feeling down, sorry for myself or just when I need to redirect my focus back to my goals. It helps reaffirm that I’m on the right track. Even if it’s a slightly uncomfortable track. Which leads me to:
- Pushing myself outside my comfort zone. I’ve pretty much always played it safe. And let’s be real, safe can be boring! Becoming an online fitness coach was definitely WAAAAAAAY outside my comfort zone. I’m a private person so sharing things about my weight loss journey wasn’t easy at first. But I saw how sharing my story helped inspire others to start their own journey. And I also realized that when ideas keep you up at night (like starting your blog) that means you should GO FOR IT. It doesn’t mean that you’ll always be successful. You have to fail in order to grow. But believe me, every time I do something outside my comfort zone I gain a little more confidence. And that pushes me to challenge myself even more.
So, the moral of the story? Becoming an online fitness coach was a turning point, not just in my fitness journey, but in my life journey. The things I’ve taken away from the experience are things I only wish I learned earlier in life. But just like everything else, it happened when it was supposed to.
And just as a sidebar, if you are ever approached by someone to join their team or company, just remember, it’s a compliment! They see you as someone they feel would be an amazing addition to their team. They see you as an influencer. They see you as positive person. They see your desire to help others. So don’t immediately say no. Think about it. The worst that can happen is that you get an experience that teaches you all the things I described above. Not terrible, right?